People often tell me, “I should exercise,” or “I know that I could exercise if I had more time,” or “I would exercise if I was in better shape.” I haven’t even asked them if they exercise and they share or confess all the reasons that they should and would, if they only could!
The words “should, would, and could” are quite misleading and inaccurate. These vapid words don’t work – because they do nothing to inspire or motivate the countless numbers of people who need to exercise (and everyone does without exception). They set us up to fail. Why? Because there is no spark to ignite the fire – to jumpstart the engine and get most sedentary people off the couch.
I prefer to replace the shoulds, woulds and coulds, with the word want. With want – I have created a desire, an intention. I feel the beginnings of an urge, a need, more importantly, a spark – “I want to go for a quick walk.” To take it a step further, I utilize the creative and effective technique of visualization. In my mind’s eye, I see myself walking briskly around the Jamaica Pond on a chilly sunny day. I have on a my favorite ski parka, warm hat, fleece scarf and gloves.” On another occasion I visualize myself taking a long walk just before sunset – there I go – I am out the door and into the sunset!
The next time you hear yourself saying should, would or could – change the word to WANT.. imagine and visualize what unfolds! You may be pleasantly surprised.
